I am humbled by the wisdom that emerges from the clients I get to work with. One woman’s wisdom that emerged when trying to change a recurring pattern in her life – is so simple and yet creates changes so profound – that I’ve passed it on every chance I get. “It is all true . . . if it’s all about me. But it is not all about me. What else is it about?”
The recurring pattern that we noted from within our first sessions together – was in situations where she was receiving criticism. In these moments, she would want to both fight (how dare you say that to me!) and fly away (what if it is true – I’m a terrible person) and instead would “freeze” (not able to respond, but just sit in that moment feeling totally vulnerable, no longer truly listening to the person but moving into both criticizing herself and recalling every moment that would prove that this criticism was unfounded, unjust and wrong or even worse – correct). After the moment was over, her mind was preoccupied with the possible next conversation with this person, or ways to avoid this person, or ways to express her anger in a letter, email or text. Read more . . . click here
